| Explosive situation- Update at end [message #642891] |
Wed, 28 July 2010 12:37  |
Lisa D
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Ugh. I'm so tired of family drama I could cry. To make an extremely long story short, my m-i-l enables her youngest son (dh's brother.) He is living with her- always has, except for a year or so when he was married. He's 31.
She lets him live with her rent-free, doesn't require him to get a job, or have any household responsibilities. She gives him money, lets him drive her car without a license, pays his child support to keep him out of jail, and when he *does* end up in jail (drugs, etc.) she bails him out. Everyone in the family (including my dh) has talked to her time and time again, to no avail. Her son treats her horrificly, and last night he attacked her physically. When the police arrived, she *sent them away, claiming there was no problem.* It got uglier after that and she ended up driving 2 hours to arrive at our house at 2:00 a.m. to spend the night.
This morning, someone went to check on him and found him sleeping on the couch in her house. She is planning on coming back here to spend the night again. She *says* she will put her foot down with him now, but she has said that thousands of times before, and NEVER does, and nothing EVER changes.
Please pray for this situation. I'm afraid she will end up wanting to stay with us indefinitely, while he "lives it up" in her house by himself. She is so co-dependent it's scary. But she refuses to see it. Sure, she'll tell people what they want to hear, that she's putting her foot down, and will do the right thing, but if promises were pennies, I'd be a millionaire. Trouble is, she is very convincing- but always goes back on her word.
Pray for my dh to handle this wisely. He's sick of the whole situation, too. I've hardened my heart to it because it's never ending.
Thanks so much.
[Updated on: Fri, 30 July 2010 09:47]
Blessings,
Lisa D.
Love divine has seen and counted
Every tear it caused to fall;
And the storm which Love appointed
Was its choicest gift of all...
~~~~~~~~anonymous but often quoted by Elisabeth Elliot.
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| Re: Explosive situation [message #642946 is a reply to message #642891 ] |
Wed, 28 July 2010 18:02  |
Tamara Eaton
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Praying for you all, Lisa. For the Lord to minister to you and your husband and mil and bil. For wisdom, deliverance, and peace.
With love and hugs,
Tamara
Blessings,
Tamara (joyful mom of 7, grandma to 1 so far!)
There is always enough time to do the will of God. Don't Waste Your Life!
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| Re: Explosive situation [message #642998 is a reply to message #642891 ] |
Wed, 28 July 2010 22:48 |
 LynetteMN
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Location: North of Never |
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Praying, this sounds so difficult!
Wife for 21 years
Mom to 19 yo dd and 17 yo dd
Lovin' on dogs Jaden and Buddy
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| Re: Explosive situation [message #643169 is a reply to message #642891 ] |
Thu, 29 July 2010 23:35 |
Pam H
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Registered: April 2005
Location: AR |
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Praying that your bil would be caught when guilty.
Love in Jesus,
Pam
helper to Darryl (25 yrs) and mom to ds (17); ds (16); ds (14); ds (11); ds (9) and ds (6) and 6 others with Jesus
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| Re: Explosive situation [message #643239 is a reply to message #642891 ] |
Fri, 30 July 2010 09:46 |
Lisa D
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Location: southern US |
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Update: Things have progressed rapidly. The sheriff removed b-i-l in handcuffs from m-i-l's house after he left threatening voice mails that he was going to tear up the house. (She's not the one who called the police, though.) Don't know how long they will hold him.
B-i-l's father is on the way here from St Louis.
Intervention will probably be tomorrow morning.
[Updated on: Fri, 30 July 2010 09:47]
Blessings,
Lisa D.
Love divine has seen and counted
Every tear it caused to fall;
And the storm which Love appointed
Was its choicest gift of all...
~~~~~~~~anonymous but often quoted by Elisabeth Elliot.
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